YOU DON’T ALWAYS NEED TO ‘FORGIVE AND FORGET’ TO GET CLOSURE. 👇🏻
I can’t count the amount of times I have forgiven people, who sometimes didn’t even apologize, for the crappy things they have done to me for the sake of ‘peace’ and avoiding ‘drama’.
But we need to get out of this mentality that you need to ‘forgive and forget’ to protect ourselves from difficult feelings associated with anger, pain, and betrayal. We need to stop telling people that the only way to find closure is to forgive.
It is perfectly acceptable to hate someone who has damaged you. It is completely OK to remove toxic people from your life. And no, you don’t need to forgive them, especially if you can’t, and/or you put your mental well-being at risk to keep this person around to avoid being labelled ‘over dramatic’, ‘sensitive’, or ‘unreasonable’. ONLY YOU can decide the severity of how someone hurt YOU and how YOU should protect yourself.
It doesn’t matter if it’s your family, friend, partner, and so forth. You also DO NOT need to keep associating with someone or forgive them to appease your family, friends, and so forth.
What you do need to do, is FORGIVE YOURSELF. Recognize the hurt, recognize the pain, and take care of YOU. You are not responsible for someone else’s actions that hurt you. You are not responsible to make that person feel better about something shitty THEY DID. You are responsible for YOU, and not hurting anyone in the same way you’ve been hurt. Because you are not a coward. You are strong 👏🏼
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